Consensus, stagnation, and insignificance
Nov. 18th, 2007 05:37 pmMe: I remember once... as a group we were asked to try this thought exercise: We'd partner up, and one of us would make some random suggestion for, say, what to do for $Event; and we had to go back and forth saying "nah...because $Reason; let's do $Thing instead"
Me: And then doing the same thing except always answering "Sure! Let's do $Thing2 too!"
Me: Yes. The whole... let's make everyone happy thing. It bugs me so much.
Me: You can say "Yes! We'll do this and this and this and this and this and this" and in the end no one really gets a chance to do what they wanted to do; it's all mashed up into some amorphous blob
Me: In the end the point is that you can't please everyone, and that's the way it is.
There are only three possible outcomes when you try to put together something to make everyone happy. Either it never ends up being done because you'll forever be looking for a consensus, or there will be some people who are going to be unhappy with whatever you end up doing, or it'll become that amorphous blob of 'bits of what everybody wants' and then no one's the better for it - because all of their contributions will have been significant, yet ultimately insignificant.